When I had Grayson, Micah and I were one of those lucky couples that meets an amazing couple in our child birth class that we completely clicked with in every way and became life long friends. Through them we met a group of other great baby friends (none of our other friends had, had kids yet) and this group became our social circle. Slowly jobs changed and couple by couple moved away. The saddest day ever was about 6 years ago when our best baby friends moved across the country. Micah and I were so bummed that we often would find ourselves saying that we wished the C's were still here. (We still do.) We would compare all the other couples we met to them and no one fit quite as well as the C's did.
When Ash was born (3 1/2 yrs. ago) I really longed for mommy friendship again and a co-worker told me about Meetup.com. I had never heard of it and honestly it scared me half to death thinking about how to make new mommy friends. I checked out the site and there was a local mom's group with pictures of friendly looking women with kids about the same age as Ash. So I took a huge leap of faith and signed up.
I went to my first "meet-up" that summer and I wish I could say it was wonderful and I met friends right away, but that wasn't the case. In fact, it was in a word...horrible. The women were rude & full of themselves. Telling me about how much their homes were worth, how gifted their kids were, and once they were finished they would ignore me. I went to about six more "meet-ups" that were just like this. I seriously am not sure what I continued to throw myself to the lions, but I did. Then finally, I went to a meetup at a park. There was a really friendly girl hosting and she actually talked to me & was NICE! She could tell I was nervous and had figured that I had had some bad experiences so she gave me some helpful tips...never go to the home playdates unless you know the hostess, stick to the parks & public places, and to hang in there because there were some really nice ladies in the group.
A couple of days later the group's organizer hosted a newcomers cocktail hour at her house. I met three great girls (two of whom I hangout with regularly) that night and we began hanging out periodically. The following summer all of us invited a girl or two from the group that we had met for dessert at a local restuarant and we all clicked. I then invited all the same girls (there were 5 of us) over to watch the preimere of the Real Housewives of DC. We jokingly call ourselves the Real Housewives & meet up every couple of weeks during the school year & weekly during the summer. We've even added a couple of girls to our circle. Their friendship has been a huge blessing in my life! So if you are in the same spot I was I strongly encourage you to check out meetup. You may run into some meanies, but there are great friends to be made. Just don't give up!!